Weekly Word: 7 Traits of a Highly Effective Mindset

Weekly Word: 7 Traits of a Highly Effective Mindset

I came across the following graphic, 7 Traits of a Highly Effective Mindset, on the instagram account of one of my new favorite bloggers, Twelveskip. The content comes from Marc Chernoff who, along with his wife run Marcandangel.com, a site chock full of “practical tips for productive living.”

7 Traits of a Highly Effective Mindset

7 Traits of a Highly Effective Mindset

Every now and then I get caught up in the million things I need to *do* and the multitudinous tasks that need to be *accomplished*. Last night I woke up at 3AM with my face, yet again, in my laptop. It’s at times like these where I’ve learned to pull back slightly and feed my soul with messages that will strengthen me and help shed some light on my personal resource management. This particular graphic couldn’t have come at a better time.

The first trait, enjoying and appreciating the present moment has been missing in my life as I turn automaton-like from one task to another–whether it’s writing my books, being supermom, or handling business matters. As I read that first trait, I made an important realization: during the past six months I had barely taken any time out to enjoy the present moment and its accomplishments. I forgot the most important step along my personal road to success–stop and appreciate all of my daily accomplishments before turning o the next task. It’s important to me that I pat myself on the back, and revel in how my accomplishments benefit my family and others around me, even if it’s just for a little while. Checking in with myself this way keeps me grateful, grounded in the present and happy.

I’m so grateful to have discovered this terrific graphic. Not only will I share it with everybody I know, I will definitely be mining Marc and Angel’s site for all the stuff I can get my eyes on! Thanks again, Twelveskip!

Weekly Word: 7 Traits of a Highly Effective Mindset

How to Make Your Dreams Come True in 5 Easy Steps

How to Make Your Dreams Come True in 5 Easy Steps

In Blood To Blood, Angel Brown vows to follow her dream of being a singer despite incredible challenges. This is in line with the book’s theme: pursuing your dreams and conquering the blockages along the way.

Besides music and writing, one of my passions is talking to young people about following their dreams, and giving them concrete details about how to go about making those dreams into reality.

I recently spoke to the young folks at Fenway High School and Boston Arts Academy about my books, writing and manifesting dreams. I believe teenage life represents the perfect storm of opportunity. Like kids, teens usually have big dreams, but unlike kids, teens usually have people telling them what they can’t and can’t accomplish.

Like my mom used to say “There’s no such thing as can’t.” I love nothing more than showing people how to prove the naysayers wrong. Here are 5 easy steps to take to make your dreams, whatever they may be, come true.

  1. Identify – Target exactly what it is you want to do. Be specific.
  2. Educate – Whether it’s taking classes, reading books or picking the brains of someone doing what you want to do, you can never stop learning. Learn all you can about your chosen craft.
  3. List – Make a list of the steps you need to take to reach your goal. This is the foundation of your plan and something you will continue to tweak and adjust over time.
  4. Execute – Do the things on your list. Finish them one at a time, and do your best. Be patient with yourself and the process.
  5. Persevere – Never give up. Surround yourself with people who will support and/or inspire you. Ignore the naysayers, even if it is your own family. Don’t believe anyone who says you can’t pursue, and reach, your dream.

Repeat the above steps until you reach your goal. And then repeat these steps for any new goals you have. These are basic dream manifestation tactics.

Thanks to all the schools that have opened their doors so far and allowed me to meet all the fabulous young dreamers out there. Keep making your dreams happen!

 How to Make Your Dreams Come True in 5 Easy Steps

Top 10 Nelson Mandela Links

Top 10 Nelson Mandela Links

Top 10 Nelson Mandela Links

Top 10 Nelson Mandela Links – Photo: ANC.org.za

My 9 year old asked me who was Nelson Mandela. At that moment I realized that I hadn’t sufficiently done my job.

Why do we endlessly discuss only the people that have passed on; King, Ghandi, Teresa, Jesus, but the living legends remain spoken about only every now and then? Why must death precede canonization?

It has been twenty minutes since I learned of the passing of one the world’s greatest leaders. So many emotions are flooding my head and heart. I want to give an answer that will really address the question. Who was Nelson Mandela?

It’s a simple question but the answer is epic and, perhaps, as endless as the man’s impact on the world and future generations.

“Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.” ~ Nelson Mandela

The easiest way for me to answer is to compile a list of authoritative links that will collectively do justice to the magnanimity of the life of, in my humble opinion, one of the greatest people to walk the face of this earth. Instead of relying on my rambling attempts to explain in a few breaths, I hope this list will help my son, and anyone reading this, to truly understand the enduring power of humility, forgiveness, grace and strength in the face of great adversity.

Rest in peace, Madiba. You are with the Ancestors now.

Top 10 Nelson Mandela Links

  1. The Life and Legacy of Nelson Mandela: http://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2013/12/05/world/africa/Mandela-Timeline.html?ref=africa#/#time216_6663
  2. Nelson Mandela on Wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nelson_Mandela
  3. Nelson Mandela.org – Send a message of condolence to Mr. Mandela’s family: http://www.nelsonmandela.org/p90/index.html
  4. Mandela: An Audio History (NPR): http://www.npr.org/2004/04/26/1851882/mandela-an-audio-history
  5. BBC – A wealth of information on Mr. Mandela: http://www.bbc.co.uk/search/news/?q=nelson%20mandela
  6. Nelson Mandela – The ANC Archives – Video, audio, documents, photos and so much more. This is a virtual treasure trove.: http://ancarchives.org.za/view/collections/leadership/nelson-mandela/
  7. Youtube – Nelson Mandela – Decades of video clips on Nelson Mandela: http://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=%22nelson+mandela%22&sm=3
  8. Nelson Mandela – Biography.com: http://www.biography.com/people/nelson-mandela-9397017
  9. The Nelson Mandela Museum: http://www.nelsonmandelamuseum.org.za/
  10. Nelson Mandela – ANC.org – Send messages of condolence, read speeches and writings, and more: http://www.anc.org.za/nelson/index.php

Weekly Word: Sarah Ban Breathnack

Weekly Word: Sarah Ban Breathnack

You simply will not be the same person two months from now after consciously giving thanks each day for the abundance that exists in your life. And you will have set in motion an ancient spiritual law: the more you have and are grateful for, the more will be given you. ~ Sarah Ban Breathnack

Thanks, Sarah Ban Breathnack!

Weekly Word: Perseverance

Today’s weekly word: Perseverance

There will come a time when you think everything is finished. That will be the beginning.- Louis L’Amour

This quote can apply to a lot of things in life but it really resonated with me when I was going through the editing process for Blood To Blood.

Contrary to what some people think, there are self-published authors who actually spend much time and money in the editing process, as all writers should. It took me 3 months to write the first draft and 2 years to get it right.

But after all the beta-reads, re-writing and critiques the part that really got me was the copy-editing. You get to the point where, finally, you’re hiring a copy-editor and there’s actually an end in sight. Or so you think. The process took about a month and a half.

But eventually, once I’d read the manuscript 3 more times after the final, final, final submission from my fabulous copy editor, I did get to the point where I, with butterflies in my stomached, realized there was no more editing to do.

Or so I thought…

Yep, as I was reading the book out loud to my 8 year-old, we came across an instance of the word “the” which should have been “then.”

It just goes to show you, no matter how far you think you’ve come, there’s always some more to go. I’m grateful for making it through that journey! How about you? Any tales of perseverance to share?

Weekly word: Perseverance